Leadership and Healthy Messages
Leaders play a special role in the lives of others. Think of some of the most influential leaders you’ve encountered in your life. There are a number of skills and qualities they could have possessed that appealed to you, whether they were fearless, experts in their field, great communicators, or immensely selfless, among other attributes. One thing is for sure — they made a positive impact, one that left a lasting impression and/or contributed to growth and change.
The Faces of Leadership
Leadership, according to Merriam-Webster, is defined as the office or position of a leader; the capacity to lead; or the act or an instance of leading. This shows the width and breadth of leadership, whether one is filling a formal leadership role or taking the initiative to lead at home, work, or within their community. Some of the most influential leaders that might come to mind were not tasked to lead but felt compelled to in order to address an issue or meet a need. It’s important to not discredit the influence we can all have in our lives and work every day. Maybe this is you. Or perhaps you don’t see how you influence others at all. Consider your “sphere of influence,” personally and professionally, and the areas where you can make a positive contribution or effect change.
Challenges and Misuses or Abuses of Power
In addition to the leaders we remember fondly, we’ve all likely encountered leaders who, unfortunately, have stood out for not-so-good reasons. There are individuals who might serve in a leadership role due to their knowledge of a certain area, even “seniority,” but lack some of the skills and/or qualities that would make them better leaders. Some of these leaders are largely not good at working with people, and exhibit negative behaviors, such as placing blame or pointing the finger, being overly critical or putting others down, miscommunicating, and/or abusing their power, to name a few.
Oftentimes, we lack awareness of the power or influence we can have on others. Whether providing pertinent information to a group of people, giving someone advice on how to handle an issue, or posting a message on social media, it’s important to think about the impact it might have on others. This isn’t to say that one should be so cautious that they end up not sharing what might be necessary. On the other hand, within the larger society where it’s easy to share information, including potentially thoughtless or inconsiderate opinions and criticism, and just as easy to be criticized for doing the opposite, it’s crucial to keep the tenets of healthy messaging in mind. A healthy message 1. serves an intended purpose, fosters growth, and/or brings about positive change, for yourself and others, and 2. is clear and consistent, aligned with values and goals, and contributes to organizational objectives, if applicable.
Key Leadership Skills
In whatever capacity you lead or influence others, it’s always worthwhile to develop or refine skills that improve your impact. The International Institue for Management Development (IMD) noted eight key leadership skills you need to know in 2024, including:
Relationship building — the foundation of a high-performing team.
Agility and adaptability — staying at the cutting edge as a leader.
Innovation and creativity — learning to push your boundaries.
Employee motivation — improving engagement and efficiency.
Decision-making — leading with conviction.
Conflict management — keeping the peace.
Negotiation — winning the game.
Critical thinking — understanding the links between ideas.
Do you consider yourself a leader, and if so, what makes your leadership or influence beneficial to others? If you don’t consider yourself a leader or question your influence on others, why is that? This writing provides a high-level overview of leadership and healthy messages. To explore these and other topics more, please view current and upcoming writings, and feel free to share a comment. Request a free consultation to get started with services and reach out if interested in partnering.
Healthy Messages™ provides professional consulting services for the growth and positive change of individuals, leaders, and organizations around areas of service. Whether you’re a professional seeking to develop new skills, a leader or business owner wanting to see positive change across systems, or either in need of direct writing support or a partner to simply walk with and advise you along the journey, there are many ways to create healthy messages. Learn more about Healthy Messages™’ mission, vision, and outcomes.
What Does it Mean to Create Healthy Messages?
What does it mean to “create healthy messages?” You might be asking yourself this question if it’s your first time being introduced to the topic. Or maybe you have some idea of the topic but are not exactly sure. Whether you’re familiar with or new to Healthy Messages™, now is a great time to explore its purpose in greater detail.
At its core, Healthy Messages™ is a reflection of its name. To expound on this more, first consider what it means to be “healthy.” It’s synonymous with “well,” “strong,” and “whole,” to name a few, and according to Miriam-Webster, it means “beneficial to one’s physical, mental, or emotional state, conducive to or associated with good health.” “Good” is important to note. When someone or something is healthy, it is in good health, compared to poor health, and similarly will embody an appearance that is representative of this. Take a plant, for instance. When healthy, its leaves appear green and vibrant. If unhealthy, its leaves might start to fade in color or wilt, and ultimately it doesn’t grow.
Next, a message is a “communication in writing, in speech, or by signals.” A message is also “an underlying theme or idea,” which makes a message particularly significant. Think of the most meaningful messages you’ve heard or read throughout your life. Rather than just sharing for the sake of sharing, an intentional or purposeful message provides a benefit to you and is constructive to you in your life, even if it doesn’t always feel that way at first. Take, for instance, the times you might have received a message that was difficult for you. This could be because an issue or some area of weakness that needed to be improved was the focus of the conversation. It’s hard to hear when you’ve made a mistake or didn’t do your best or what you hoped you would, or if things couldn’t have been better, it somehow caused a negative reaction.
Whatever the case may be, if shared effectively, a healthy message will ultimately serve an intended purpose, foster growth, and/or bring about positive change, for yourself and others.
The term “healthy” is also inspired by work with individuals within various aspects of service. One area of concern is human or helping services, including mental health care, intersections between mental and health care, faith-based services, and other community-based initiatives. Helping people in need is largely purpose-driven work and brings meaningful rewards, both for the giver and receiver. On the other hand, it has its share of challenges — high demand/stress, limited resources, and risks to one’s own mental and/or physical health, to name a few. Additionally, in many cases, there is an absence of values and ideals synonymous with “good” health in the very places where this is a huge aspect of its mission and vision, such as effectively achieving outcomes like growth and change or excellent customer satisfaction. The same could be said of professional services, another area of concern, including human resources, consulting, coaching, and training (learning and development). Across service areas, non-profit and for-profit businesses, there is an expectation of greater responsibility and accountability, thus a consistent need for leaders, professionals, and owners alike to consider inconsistencies in messages conveyed through words and actions, gaps between ideals and practices, even a lack of positive customer experiences, all of which ultimately detract from the outcomes they hope to achieve.
A healthy message is clear and consistent, aligned with values and goals, and contributes to organizational objectives.
How do you create healthy messages? Healthy Messages™ provides professional consulting services for the growth and positive change of individuals, leaders, and organizations around areas of service. Whether you’re a professional seeking to develop new skills, a leader or business owner wanting to see positive change across systems, or either in need of direct writing support or a partner to simply walk with and advise you along the journey, there are many ways to create healthy messages.
This writing provides a high-level overview of what it means to create healthy messages. To explore these and other topics more, please view current and upcoming writings, and feel free to share a comment. Request a free consultation to get started with services and reach out to partner.
Healthy Messages™ provides professional consulting services for the growth and positive change of individuals, leaders, and organizations within areas of service. Learn more about Healthy Messages™’ mission, vision, and outcomes.
Building Community: Navigating Conflicts
Community can be defined as a unified body of individuals — individuals who possess similar interests or seek to achieve a shared goal or vision. Not just what one experiences within a particular group or place, community takes place wherever people with commonalities come together, from home to work to society at large. Building community with people is foundational but can be challenging to achieve, even amongst individuals who know each other well. We have all likely encountered some aspect of this within our families or other close associations. Oftentimes within shared spaces, individuals can have differing ideas or opinions, which can lead to conflicts, and at times, separation. If the latter is necessary, this doesn’t have to be negative per se, especially if it supports those involved. If done well, all should feel respected, heard/considered, and that they have a mutual understanding of plans moving forward. Instead, what can happen is people are subjected to miscommunication, blame, criticism, hostility, and/or are ultimately “written off” by the other. While all of these experiences are important areas of concern, this content focuses on the latter. The idiom “to write someone off” means to no longer consider someone of value or to dismiss someone that has been deemed to be a failure, often following an instance or instances of them not living up to someone else’s expectations, which may or may not have even been communicated in the first place. It’s never good when relationships come to this but it’s a far more common practice than we may realize.
Underlying Issues
There are a number of reasons why conflicts arise between members within communities. There may be underlying issues with self-esteem, an overwhelming reliance or dependency of one on the other, unaddressed anger, undesirable control or manipulation, and/or unreasonable expectations of one another, to name some possibilities. If either or other conflicts persist, it may be an appropriate decision to part ways with someone. This could also be the case for a larger group or organization. Unhealthy behaviors expressed by one party, or both, can cause distress or harm and ultimately detract from the purpose at hand. The person or persons exhibiting unhealthy behaviors may not even be aware of any issues or, if aware, struggle to do things differently, and it takes decisive decision-making, and courage, on the part of one or both to acknowledge that there is a problem and that they want change. If there is a lack of self-awareness or understanding amongst the group, this could be confusing and hurtful to learn. Yet, it’s just as necessary to go through as it could provide an opportunity for growth for all.
Knowing the Difference
On the other hand, a misunderstanding within communities that causes an unfortunate, and at times unnecessary, conflict is the belief that to be unified you have to agree on everything. There may be foundational ideas that unite individuals, say a company’s mission, vision, and core values, but disagreements on the goals focused on or methods used to achieve objectives that separate them. Then there may be personal differences between individuals — what someone likes vs doesn’t.
If there are differences in foundational beliefs, conflicts can arise. Thus, it’s important to evaluate how one aligns or not personally and professionally with others or a larger system. However, it would be beneficial to separate this from differences of opinion on matters that have no true bearing on anyone personally or the overall objective, or which could be improved through training or mentoring. We are all unique, bringing varying perspectives, convictions, and skills/abilities to the table. It’s imperative that we learn how to navigate these differences in a way that supports others and fulfills the greater purpose. As previously noted, if necessary, separation doesn’t have to be negative if done well and ultimately contributes to the tasks at hand and the health/wellbeing of others. But, writing someone off for reasons that are unclear or that are unjustifiable only perpetuates underlying issues and causes greater challenges.
Healthy Messaging
It’s always helpful to consider the messaging behind words and actions. In the case of “writing someone off,” this communicates an unwillingness to navigate conflicts while embracing the value that people can offer. An “all or nothing” mentality can be restrictive, if not controlling and manipulative. (However, this is different from being held accountable for fulfilling reasonable expectations, say for maintaining a role or position.)
Working through conflicts when it’s possible to do so is a major component of building community and communicates openness, patience, and support, one to another. See some tips on avoiding writing people off at work and other considerations for leaders.
How do you navigate conflicts with others? What are your thoughts about writing someone off? How can you show support to others with whom you share interests or goals?
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