Positive Uses of Power
What does it mean to have power? For the purpose of this writing, there are two definitions that stand out. According to Merriam-Webster, power means the ability to act or produce an effect or possession of control, authority, or influence over others. Thus, power itself is not necessarily negative but can be used to positively influence others. In working with people, it’s important to be aware of the power you have, either by nature of your position and/or merely the ability to use your words and actions to create a negative or positive impact on others. This is especially true for leaders. This is also the case for parents or guardians. It’s relevant for anyone who has some level of responsibility for or accountability to others, including those providing a direct service. People look to those in positions of power or influence with an expectation that they are able to meet a particular need which results in them being in a better place than they were when they started. Unfortunately this is not always the case, especially when there’s a misuse or abuse of power.
It always surprises me to see careless or inappropriate behaviors from people whose job involves positively influencing others. I’m sure you’ve experienced this in some way in your life. Maybe you’ve had a manager or supervisor contribute to a toxic work environment. Perhaps you’ve experienced a business owner or service professional lack people or customer service skills. In my own experiences with community mental health and human services and businesses that specialize in the development of people/professionals, I’ve found that people-centered organizations and groups, even human resources, are no exception. In some ways, they are the most disappointing to witness because there is a greater expectation for providing quality care to and for others.
In considering these types of issues, there are fortunately individuals and organizations that have and do model positive uses of power. They demonstrate the kinds of behaviors that one wants to see and experience, encourage and represent healthy communication in words and actions, and contribute to positive change. Think of the people in your life that come to mind as great examples of this. How do they positively influence others? What makes them stand out? When I ponder this, these are the qualities or values that I’ve appreciated and want to represent in my own life:
Kindness - willingness to help or be of service to others to meet a specific need or add value to other people’s lives through messages shared or actions shown.
Purposeful - services provided, and related communication, are intended to address a specific need that someone may have, and align with personal and/or organizational objectives.
Responsive - there is an acknowledgement of needs or concerns and follow through with regular communication.
Growth-minded - there is a desire to see people reach their potential or achieve their goals and encourage this in meaningful ways personally, professionally, and organizationally.
Strength/Courage - able to persevere through difficulties and challenges, particularly as it relates to advocating for positive change, while maintaining one’s values and character.
Awareness - clear on the skills/abilities, desires, and needs that they and others bring in order to support one another and are open and honest about areas of weakness and strength.
Thoughtful - think thoughtfully about the words and actions that will meet particular needs and support growth.
We all have the power to contribute positively to the lives of others. In what ways do you want to have a positive influence? What areas would you like to improve in to better support the people in your life or whom you serve?
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